"Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen to what you say. Best friends listen to what you don't say."
Today just browsing the internet and came across the sentence above. Just a penny from my thoughts, in this world things happen unexpectedly and they always come at the unexpected timing which will caught you off guard.
People in this world actually live in their own world, but what is the definition of this world? Is it a luxurious or comfortable place? A person is always bounded with constraints, so is this good or is this bad? With the right amount of constraints, it is good, but when there is too much constraints, they will feel sick and will always want to avoid the truth.
When people tend to have the urge to run away, they will always make up excuses just to make
their way through or the excuses is just to their own benefit. Some people turn to their beliefs, some people turn to their friends yet some people just turn to something bad where they knew that it is a bad thing but they still wan to carry on and do it.
Talking about beliefs, hmm I personally am not a strong believer in my religion maybe it is due to the fact they I do not like constraints. But sometime it is good to have a belief, as least when you are really down to a certain extend of your life, there is something there for you to be your support, which I believe in that because I think the religion that my mother have supported her all the year since the day they are not together. The religion has become her pillar of support, and I thank the god for that.
Secondly about friends, when people are down, they might turn to their friends to pour their troubles into. It is true that everyone can hear what they want to say, but those who really listen to you is your friends, but the one who is there when you are down, listening to you, giving advice to you in the right way, guiding you out of the blues, helping you when the need is there, these are what they are call best friends.
Best friends can have a lot of meaning, depending on what kind of perspective you are looking at. From my point of perception, I think that by being best friends, it is not a one or two day matter, friendship are build over time, and when the time goes by, you start to know what kind of character is that person, you start to know when he is happy or unhappy, but when the time goes on for a long time, maybe example ten years, or fifteen years?
They might take each other for granted. When that happens, they might not see things as clearly as the third party when something happen to their friends. They will start to take sides. I do not know whether is that true but logically thinking it might be like what I think.
Thirdly, when people starts to turn to doing things that are bad, the real problem lies here, where all their friends have abandoned him and left him alone to fend for himself, but I am glad that I am still not to that standard, where I still believe that my friends are still beside me and giving me the help that I need.
Friendships can be categorized into few categories. “Trusted friendship and vague friendship”
Trusted friendship is like a group of people gather around and hang out together most of the time, but their level of friendship might not be as good as best friends, this is an open ended statement, where there is no right or wrong arguments. There are different levels of trusted friendship but now let me share what I think about the first level of trusted friendship is.
People hanging out together are because they have built up a certain level of friendship which is call trust. They have trust in each other where they sort of know some of their habits, slightly of their character therefore when they hang out together they are able to feel the cohesiveness of their group, because they are secure in their own group, they will look out for each other and help each other out when there is trouble brewing during the time when the group of people are together.
Vague friendship are like those hi bye friends, you seldom see each other and maybe worse than that, never see each other for a few years but you know that there is a person called *toot*. When you bump into that person on the street, the both of you know each other, but pretend not to see each other. Or when you bump into each other, you will just say the normal sentences example: “how are you? What have you been doing? It is good that you are fine. We hang out together next time ya? Got to go.” That is the minimum example of what is a vague friendship,
I still think that sometime I still do not have the mind of the mature person in regards of my age. But sometimes I do feel like, hmmm, it is supposed to be this way because this is what a normal grown up person will do and think.
Singapore is a small country with limited resources, yet the only strong resource is human. There are different levels of thinking in a human mind, there is no guarantee that you can understand a human being well enough to anticipate what he is going to do or think. A human mind is forever changing unless your mind is like a robot which is being programmed to do and think certain way to reach the solution.
Over these years, I have made new friends and lose some friends, but the friends that I have lost, I do not regret it because some circumstance required me to do that, but I am glad that the friends that I have made, they make me walk this far, and I am grateful for that. I admit that sometime I am too level-headed and sometime I am too over reacted but do not think that I am not thinking when I am overreacting over certain issue and do not think that when I am level-headed, I might be daydreaming. But thanks to you all. My friends, I love you.
